How to write a wedding speech

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With August almost upon on us, so is the height of wedding season. If you have been blessed with the honour / terror of being named Best Man or Father of the Bride then there will be only one thing on your mind right now....the SPEECH.

Here's our 5-step guide to prevent you from committing social suicide...

TIMEFRAME
Despite the pressure you may feel to deliver a biographical monologue, no one likes a long speech. The most effective speeches can be delivered in 10mins, 15 max and will guarantee more laughs, more tears and a more thankful crowd. Tip – practice with a friend the day before and ask them to time you.

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CENSORSHIP
Comedy doesn't always equal crude in this context. Remember, you're delivering a speech to your friends grandparents, aunties, uncles, children and parents, so whilst it's great to reminisce about university days, words and references to fucking, drugs, orgies and the groom's mother should be removed or sensitively handled. The happy coyple will thank you for it.

IN JOKES
Don't go there. Whilst it may seem like a good idea to dig up every in joke you and your mate have ever shared, stop. Think again. Re-group. Remember, you're presenting to a wider audience, which will probably include many people you've never met and who won't give two shits about that song you used to do that funny dance to or Irene with the big tits who worked at the local. Anecdotes are good, and a key staple to any speech, but just make sure they're about the bride or groom and not about you. One passing in-joke with a cheeky wink, should be acceptable.

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ETIQUETTE
The Father of the Bride by tradition should begin, and it's his job to toast the bride and groom. The best man should follow and it's his job to toast the bridesmaids. NB. find out bridesmaid ages before inappropriate jokes are factored in.

DELIVERY
It's normal to want to write the entire speech down, giving you a comfort blanket to guide you from start to finish. However, unless you've already perfected this form of public speaking stick to cue cards and visual references. Static, over rehearsed speeches come across as boring and insincere. Speak from the heart for the best, most touching, comedic and energetic delivery.

TROUBLESHOOTING
Trying to think of a quirky or original speech concept but drawing blanks? The best option here, and sometimes the most effective, is to deliver a short, genuine, heart felt speech about the subject. It's not wimping out, people will love it. Especially after a few glasses of wine.

 

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