This Man Ghosted His Girlfriend For Years, And Then She Became His Boss

Karma is alive and well

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Remember the days of yore when we weren't all "stashing" or "breadcrumbing" each other and were simply ghosting one another?

Though slowly slipping away from a potential partner without an explanation is a little rude, it's unthinkably cruel and honestly kind of psychopathic to just disappear when you're in a proper relationship with someone.

Especially one of three years.

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Enter: A Man Who Has Done That Very Thing.

An anonymous man emailed into the Ask A Manager (clue is in the name) website with his predicament. Prepare yourself to feel the smallest amount of sympathy your body can physically produce.

"I have been an expat since graduating and have been moving a lot. More than a decade ago, when I was still young, I was in a relationship with a woman, Sylvia, in a country where we both lived. Sylvia wanted to settle down but I was not ready to commit so young. We clearly had different expectations from the relationship. I did not know what to do and, well, I ghosted her. Over the Christmas break, while she was visiting her family, I simply moved out and left the country. I took advantage of the fact that I accepted a job in other country and did not tell her about it. I simply wanted to avoid being untangled in a break-up drama. Sylvia was rather emotional and became obsessed with the relationship, tracking me down, even causing various scenes with my parents and friends."

Wonder why she wanted to find you after you just walked out the door? Anyway.

Get ready for the twist:

"Anyhow, fast forward to now. I now work as a math teacher in an international school. I have been in other relationships since, so Sylvia is a sort of forgotten history. Sadly, till now. This week, I learnt that our fantastic school director suddenly resigned due to a serious family situation and had to move back to her home country over the summer. The school had to replace her. We are getting a new director. I read the bio of the new boss and googled her and was shocked to discover it is Sylvia. We have not been in touch and do not have any mutual friends anymore. I am not a big fan of social media and had no idea what she had been up to since the unpleasant situation a long time ago."

The chapter of this book would be titled 'Sylvia's Revenge'

"I have no idea what to do and how to deal with this mess. It is clear this will be not only embarrassing but I will also be reporting to my ex. I am not in a position to find another job at present. There are no other international schools so finding another job in this country is not an option. Even finding a job elsewhere is not possible on such a short notice. These jobs usually open for school terms so I have to stay put for few months. But more importantly, I am happy and settled here so do not want to move. To make the situation worse, the expat community here is very small and tightly knit so teachers also socialise a lot.Do you have any suggestions for me how to handle it and what should I do? I understand that this would not have happened if I did not ghost her back then, but I cannot do anything about it now. I gathered from the comments that readers usually have a go on people like me for "bad behaviour" but I am really looking for constructive comments how to deal with the situation."

Seems like an OK guy, perhaps he shouldn't be defined by one decision, right? Well, after Ask A Manager asked how long they had been dating to get a sense of the situation he replied:

"We were together for three years and lived together for two of those years."

Three years! Here's hoping she has you answering her phone and fetching her coffee every.single.day.

Pour one out for Sylvia tonight.

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