Penny Lee: What I've Learnt

A professional escort talks domination, the average penis size and discussing sex in Waitrose

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No, Penny is not my real name.

I love the character that Sharon Stone plays in Casino, Ginger. I also loved Michelle Pfeiffer in Scarface. These are really powerful women using men and sex to their advantage. Although they get kind of run down.

I thought escorting meant dinner dates. I was very naive. I called several agencies and they explained it to me: “Are you prepared to have sex for money?” They were pretty direct. “Definitely not,” I said and hung up. But I kept thinking about it. I had promises of great money and good fun and it was always tempting. So, I thought I’ll just try it, and if I don’t like it there’s no full-time commitment. I tried it and I loved it. Straight away.

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I travel light. Condoms. Lip gloss. Keys. I just carry the essentials. And heels. Always heels.

It’s a hidden world I live in. People use acronyms – GFE, CIM, CIF*… people who see women know what they mean.

Men see me for different reasons. They would like to expand their skills or tick boxes. With some of my customers we do the build-up and I time them. They like to be timed. In terms of maintenance. Maintaining it. Get it?

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I’ve got several clients who like to talk. We yap away, and then they realise their time is up and they have to reschedule. Some talk for 90 per cent of the time, and then jump into the sexual activity and use the extra two minutes for showering.

Ages vary so much. The majority of them are 50 and above. The oldest client I’ve had, I think he was 95. He’s still around. We had to do, well, different things.

I’m amused by the trust. They give me tips on what’s happening in the big world of business. We’re talking big. Who’s trading with who, what deals they’re making. Sensitive matters.

Several clients actually give me scripts to learn. They’re testing not only my bedroom abilities but my acting abilities. I had one client who wanted to act out a family: I would be a daughter; he invited a much more mature lady over to be the mum; he was the dad. I was to discover them in the bedroom, and I would play with my “mum”, but not with my “dad”. So it was within reason.

Sex has been influenced by porn. Big time. I’ve noticed that men are more into PSE – Porn Star Experience. I don’t advertise that. I’m not going to compromise my happiness. Anal is a trend these days. Coming In Mouth. Men can’t say, “Wifey, I’ve seen anal penetration on the internet, can we do it?”

I have such a great time with submissives. I was with a gentleman who had this fantastic penthouse apartment in Canary Wharf. He was naked on all fours and wanted me to abuse him verbally. Within 10 or 15 minutes, I ran out of swear words. It was very disappointing.

The average size? It’s difficult to say. And seriously, I’ve lost count.

I watched that film Yves Saint Laurent. It’s good but nothing special. He was very pedantic about how women looked. Some of my clients are like that. They ask for the secretary look, or they’d get me stockings, lingerie, figure-hugging dresses. Submissives like black outfits: black pencil skirt, black heels. Closed toe, not open toe. That specific. And they’re not gay.

I have a dominatrix outfit but I barely use it. Some rubber outfits are really nice, but some of them are really tacky and my bum sweats in them.

I’ve got a huge respect for men. They don’t have hidden agendas. They don’t play games. They are direct. I love decisive men. Like Don Draper. He’s the ideal.

I’ve never had a bad experience, but I’m a good judge of character. On several occasions, I’ve said no to men after our first phone call. They were not well-spoken. They were asking all sorts of wrong questions. I decided there is nothing there for me.

There’s a misconception of this industry that I don’t have any other options in life: I’d struggle for money; this is a last resort; I’m not educated enough to get a highly paid job. But I am.

There are men who are just incredible in bed. And I would like to see them again. Sometimes they know it and sometimes they don’t. But I cannot be keen because they can sense it: “Oh no, she’s forming an attachment.” That would be it.

I save marriages. Men don’t necessarily talk to other women about their relationships. They keep it to themselves. I give them advice and they appreciate it.

Men are men, at the end of the day. They are not accustomed to being with just one person. I don’t want to sound sad, but men cheat. But they always cheat for a reason.

I’ve had a marriage proposal. The gentleman was already married but he was Muslim so I guess he was looking to expand his portfolio. It was a very good business relationship, but I bailed out.

My industry is no different to any other industry. I’m a product, I’m a service. I see myself like this.

My USP would be to provide affection. If men are looking for sex only – rough, animalistic sex – I’m not the person they should see. I offer companionship. That’s why I never get tired of it.

I’m fed up with speaking over the phone about what sort of things I’m comfortable with so I just list them on my website. Picking up a call when you’re in Waitrose is really embarrassing.

Some women don’t do kissing. How could you be in that intimate situation without kissing? I’m not interested in just pure sex. Call me spiritual, but I’m interested in that energy exchange.

Until the age of six, kids think of men and women as different species. Which is bizarre. But really we are.

*GFE:  Girlfriend Experience (as in affectionate), CIM: Come In Mouth, CIF: Come In Face

 

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