The Manual - How to judge a man by his posture

No one likes a sloucher, so sit up straight and pay attention as personal impact coach and body language expert Elizabeth Kuhnke teaches us how to judge a man by his posture.

Crossed legs
This can look comfortable and relaxed, and sends out a message that the man is calm and in control of his environment. This is the position of a self-assured person.

Feet together, hands in lap
This look says “I’m uncomfortable and I’m protecting my most vulnerable self”. Keeping one’s legs closed as well as hands in your lap is a way of containing nervous energy and defending yourself. Problem is, that’s what it looks like, too.

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Foot over knee
Cool, laid-back, and casual, this is the pose of a man who’s demonstrating that he’s undisturbed and stress free.

Open legs
Draws the viewer’s attention to that person’s core, and focuses the eye to their “manhood”. This position can be perceived as arrogant and confrontational with its direct access to the man’s source of power.

Finally, the perfect posture for you
Keep your gestures contained with your hands at waist level — if you’re resting your arms on the chair’s arms — or folded in your lap if you’re sitting in a chair without arms. Connect your buttocks with the chair you’re sitting on, with your weight evenly distributed between each cheek. To keep your shoulders back and your chest upright,