The Word You Should Never Use When Arguing With Your Partner

​According to psychology

Unless you're psychopathic (or Taylor Swift), avoiding arguments in relationships is what we all aspire to. 

But you might be pulling out a little six letter word that is causing just that without even realising.

In Psychology Today, couples therapist Jeffrey Bernstein says the word 'should' needs to be avoided entirely.

"'We tend to "should" all over our partners," he says, "Even if we think we're only doing so in the privacy of our own minds, it can come out in our tone or actions. Thinking should about someone you love, or being on the receiving end of a 'should,' creates negative energy and, over time, can be toxic for any relationship, especially a loving one."

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He recommends re-phrasing your argument without the judgemental word, "Instead of 'you should know how I feel,' try thinking and saying 'I would like you to please hear me out on this,'" he suggests.

"Instead of 'you shouldn't bring that up,' try 'I would like to consider what you are saying. Please let me sit with it for a little while before I respond.'"

Which sounds like a long way around what you're trying to say, but might save you a headache.